What you need to know about Sex Addiction?

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Do you really know about sex addiction? Or are you sure whatever you know about sex addiction is right and accurate? If you want to know whether your information is right or wrong, read this article and test yourself.

What is Sex Addiction?

Sex addiction is perfectly described as a progressive intimacy disorder distinguished by sexual thoughts and acts. Like all other addictions, the impact on the addict and on the family and the negative impact on both of them increases as the disorder progresses. Time by time, the addict normally has to raise the behavior of the addict to achieve the same result.

For some sex addicts, behavior does not improve beyond compulsive masturbation or the immense use of pornography or phone or computer sex services. For others, addiction can demand illegal activities like exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, child molestation, or rape.

It is not necessary for sex addicts to become sex offenders. Moreover, it is not necessary that all sex offenders are sex addicts. Roughly 55 percent of sex offenders can be considered sex addicts. And about 71 percent of child molesters are sex addicts. For many addicts, their problems are so extreme that imprisonment is the only way to verify society’s safety against them.

Society has accepted that sex offenders do not act for sexual gratification but rather out of a disturbed need for power, dominance, revenge or control, or a distorted expression of anger. Recently, an awareness of brain changes and brain reward connected with sexual behavior has led us to understand that there are also powerful sexual drives that motivate sex crime.

 

 

Increasing sexual incitement in our society has caused an increase in the number of individuals engaging in a variety of uncommon or illicit sexual practices, like phone sex, the use of safety services, and computer pornography.

Sexual activity is different from eating, having sex is important for human survival. Even though some people are virgins and by choice, some are not, while others choose celibacy for cultural or religious reasons and healthy humans have strong sexual desires. In fact, low interest in sex and lack of interest in sex can indicate a medical problem or psychiatric illness.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

As we have discussed enough sex addiction, and you are aware of sex addiction, but you might get a surprised to know that there is debate about whether it is truly an addiction and that it is not all about sex.

Sex addicts, in other words, are not people who crave lots of sex. Instead, they have basic problems like stress, anxiety, depression, and shame that drive their normal risky sexual behavior.

According to research, sex addictions are in various types and shapes. But we will discuss some main types of sex addicts. There are six types of sex addicts.

  1. The Biological Sex Addict.
  2. The Psychological Sex Addict.
  3. The Spiritual Based Sex Addict.
  4. The Trauma Based Sex Addict.
  5. The Intimacy Anorexia Sex Addict.
  6. The Sex Addict with Mood Disorder.

Here we will discuss these types in detail.

  1. The Biological Sex Addict: All sex addicts have a biological component. Less than 15% are only biological sex addicts, which means the other five types do not apply to them. An entirely biological sex addict, he or she normally grew up in relatively healthy homes and had no sexual or any other type of trauma. The addict simply created the neuro conditioning cycle in a stable manner leading them to sexual addiction.
  2. The Psychology of Sex Addict: According to the research, generally the larger population of sex addicts have tolerated some kind of abuse and neglect. This person finds the blending of the messages in the world of fantasy and the sexual chemical cocktail to the brain to be a comfort unto their hurting soul. Simply, they medicate their past or their pain in their souls by acting out which is their form of medicine.
  3. The Spiritual Based Sex Addict: These addicts always looking for a spiritual connection all the wrong places. In the process of recovery, we talk about our spiritual hole. This addict puts sex in this hole and finds it does not scratch the itch over time. He or she might have a spiritual awakening and their addictive sexual behaviors cease. They filled their hole and follow sex in a healthy manner.
  4. The Trauma Based Sex Addict: The person who is suffering from any kind of sexual trauma in their childhood or adolescence becomes a trauma-based sex addict. If the addict has experienced a specific trauma then this trauma behavior becomes the addict’s primary fantasy, selection of porn, and reenactment in his sex addiction. As in the case like we have discussed earlier, the 13-year-old boy who is sexually abused by a 30-year-old married woman who continues past high school repeats this behavior by having numerous affairs of a consistent theme. All of his affairs included women older than him.
  5. The Intimacy Anorexia Sex Addict: In previous research, we have determined that 29 people of sex addicts fit into the category of intimacy anorexia. There are characteristics of Intimacy of anorexia. Answer them the way your family would answer them about you and if you believe that five or more criteria apply to you, then you are likely to be an intimacy anorexic.
  • Withhold praise and appreciation.
  • Withhold love.
  • Control by silence or anger.
  • Criticism causing isolation.
  • Withholding sex.
  • Staying very busy to avoid partner time.
  • Blaming partner for everything.
  • Control or shame with money issues.
  • Not being able to share feelings.
  • Withholding spiritual connection.

Many addicts who have been trying to act sober and sensible but keep having what I call “flat tire “recovery usually are unspecified as intimacy anorexics. If you have been sensible from sexually addictive acting out behaviors for a year but your wife wants to leave you now because “nothing’s changed” you can also be a sexual emotional anorexic.

7. The Sex Addict with Mood Disorder: Some sex addicts in young childhood or adolescence have chemical imbalances. This young addict finds the sexual release as a way to medicate or change their chemical imbalance. Then he uses this sexual response quite regularly and by the time it creates a sexual addiction.

A second common chemical imbalance with sex addicts is Cyclothymic Disorder. This is a little up and down in mood normally experienced by the clients as a funky day on a weekly or so basis. This type of sex addict will need to do all the recovery work we have discussed.

Can I be more than one type of sex addict?

Yes, most sex addicts come in groupings of various types. And it is possible for any addict to have more than one type. Once you get to know about the type of sex addict then you should follow a treatment plan for your type and it will be beneficial for you.

Here is what happens when you have too much sex.

For many people, sex is a good thing. No doubt, it calms us, keeps us connected to a partner we care about it is physiologically beneficial. Most relationships are uplifted by daily intercourse.

The dance of meeting the needs of a partner adds passion and spice in a relationship.

So, the question is, is it possible to have too much sex?

Some people have differences in erotic impulses. For this kind of couples, one can feel harass while the other can feel rejected. If the sex was good, it can usually be good again. To get out of the hole of pursuer and the pursued, you should see this as a dysfunctional dance that has to stop. Otherwise, sex will turn into a reason to get disappointment by the one person you care about the most. Having a couple therapy can be useful, specifically at getting to the undertone of what is pushing you apart.

And usually, sex is just not healthy, specifically if it comes from a place of anger, neediness, or as a protection against emptiness. Such sex may feel good, but it is a sentimental substitute for dealing with real issues.

While the act itself may be satisfying, there is no substitute for dealing or handling what is bothering you. Good sex produces a bond. But if there is neediness, the relationship is in trouble.

In the high eroticized magic of a relationship, sex can happen whenever you meet your partner. The mixture of newness, infatuation, and desire all combine for many into a ceaseless erotic need. It is what makes “falling in love” so tempting. And it is the reason why so many people fall in love with the feeling of falling in love.

Different needs of your partner:

It is important to remember that you are having sex with another person but not yourself. So, your partner may have different needs than you. She might want to be held or stroked or talked to. While, he may want to be dominant and submissive, playful or serious. What makes anything erotic, it comes from deep within our psyches and it is different from anyone.

Be aware of the fact that some things can be erotic for some and plain or simple things like looking into one another’s eyes, can be erotic for another.

The erotic is like an art, with likes and dislikes, tastes, and preferences. What makes it amazing is the way the erotic person will pull you in, trigger that Oxytocin rush, and make you swoon.

The trick is to enjoy the differences as well as the commonality. If you know how to love, you know about the enjoyments of your partner. This is a huge thing and makes all the differences in the world.

Every person’s definition of good sex life is different, while some people are perfectly fine to often have sex, while others prefer to have sex several times a day.

You must be wondering now that if it is possible or good to have too much sex. No matter if you are in a honeymoon phase with your new partner, on vacations enjoying sex thanks to all the free time, or point-blank love having too much sex. You must be thinking about how much is too much for your body and mind to handle.

The good news is as long as you and your partner are happy and feeling comfortable in having too much sex, it does not bother and it will not harm you and your relation.

 

But having too much sex can cause infection in the bladder and in the vagina, and you might not notice until days later. You should always use the bathroom before and after sex to keep the vagina healthy.

Male can also feel pain, irritation, and soreness from having too much sex.

But by the time, your body may be able to adjust, just like anything else. If you steadily doing any activity, your body will be able to tolerate it.

Apart from the potential for unpleasant physical symptoms, there is also the psychological exposure of having too much sex. You should be regularly checking in with your partner and with your own self too, to ensure that the amount of sex you are having is making you both happy.

Communication is the most important aspect of healthy sex life, so make sure you check in with your partner and with yourself to ensure that you both are happy with the amount of sex you are having.

 

Having sex more often also gives various benefits for a loving and supportive relationship. It is said that growing intimacy is still possible if you are even not being able to have sex.

If you are not having sex more often, ask yourself why. Sometimes going to a sex therapist can be the best way to work through your relationship and personal issues.

 

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